In his song Goodbye, Chris Brown sings, “there’s never a right time to say goodbye,” and indeed there isn’t. Breakups are hard. The emotional breakdown can be too much. During this time, you can make do with a shoulder to lean on. Whether by default or design, everyone from your younger sister to distant cousin seems to know what you should do to get over it.
Even though your close friends may have your best interest at heart, you shouldn’t listen to everything that they’re telling you. Some advice, though, seems to work all the time. Here’s a rundown of five tips that’ll make you feel whole again.
You Can Hurt More Than your Partner – and it’s Okay
Listen, the way people process and experience emotions is different. In other words, it’s hard to tell if your ex still has a place for you in his/her heart. Sure, he/she may post “happy” photos on Instagram, but it is difficult to know if the intention is to make you feel bad.
So, you shouldn’t compete with your ex. Instead, accept how you’re feeling. You will not heal if you develop a carefree attitude after a breakup. Cry out loud, take stock, and mourn over what you’ve lost. That way, you will set yourself on a healing path. Most importantly, it’ll help you determine what you want in your next relationship.
Drinking yourself to Sleep isn’t going to Solve Anything
Okay, there is nothing wrong with hitting the night club after a breakup. Yep, need to “relax” with a glass or two of wine and listen to loud music. Heck, you can even treat yourself to a huge portion of black chocolate. Or can decide to binge-watch your favorite sitcom on Netflix. While you want to feel a little bit comfortable, excessive drinking, overeating or binge-watching will not help make things better.
Instead, try as much as you can to ignore unwanted emotions by engaging in more productive tasks. You can, for instance, take part in community volunteer work or anything else enables you to forget what you’re going through at the moment.
Talk to a Psychic
Wait. What? Yes, that’s right! Wouldn’t you be glad if you’d talk to someone who has the power to tell you why the relationship never worked in the first place? Wouldn’t you be eager to know what you’d have done differently? What if you ended up marrying the dude? Would it be the worst mistake you ever did? What if you learned the girl wasn’t worth chasing after all?
As superstitious as it sounds, talking to a psychic could be very well the first step towards healing. By extension, it enables you to figure out what happened and help you prepare for your next move.
There’s a catch, though. Not every psychic you meet is worth talking to – some don’t even know what they’re doing. As Psychic Advisor says, you should be cautious when dealing with people claiming to have psychic powers, especially if you’re spending your cash for their services.
Revisit an Old Hobby
When you meet someone new, you want to fit into their circle. It’s okay to drop your hobby if that is what it takes to be with the “love of your life.” Do you know what this means? Well, it implies that you’re changing to accommodate your partner. Relationship experts call it compromising your behaviors for the sake of the person you love.
So, what happens when you’re not together anymore? Of course, it gives you the freedom to be your old self again! Go out and connect with something that you hold dear to your heart. Get back to your fitness routine or buy a podcast you’ve always wanted to listen. Or try something new!
Social Media Stalking is a Big NO!
The last thing that you want to do is follow your ex-lover on social media. You shouldn’t even communicate via mail or text. Alright, accepting that you’re no longer with the person you love isn’t the easiest of things to do. However, that doesn’t mean you should check out their Insta Stories or Facebook after every 30 minutes.
On top of that, avoid bombarding them with endless text messages. You can choose to block the person on social media or mute them if you don’t want to know what they’re up to. In essence, it enables you to forget about the person and the heartache.
Breakups happen all the time. When a person decides to leave you, let them go. After all it isn’t the end of the world!